Self-discovery via online dating, online blogging sites and close encounters

Where else would an historically vanilla gal go but online to find a
guy to casually talk about whips, blindfolds and throat grabbing with?
OKCupid proves a free, interesting and at times just downright weird place
to be - however I've met some lovely chaps off the site so with some
judicious filtering it can be alright in the end. 

Online life is weird, hey? I definitely feel ready for a boyfriend, but as I get older I'm definitely more interested in developing a slightly more adventurous sex life, with a partner who can take charge and help guide me.

A real struggle I have is how to put this across in my online adverts without attracting the wrong kind of guy.

I read a really interesting blog today about Alpha Sub females (link here) which definitely spoke to me - actually I only found out about this concept due to a message from someone on OKCupid. Boy oh boy are there some kinky players on the free dating sites - but I guess that's good for a dipping a toe into the scene.